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Creating Space for God

02.24.16 | Life on Mission | by JD Larson

    It was the summer after my junior year of seminary, and I was burnt out . I wasn't just tired. There was an emptiness. Not just physical fatigue but spiritual emptiness. God felt distant, I felt emotionally numb. It's not that I didn't believe, its just that I was confused about what believing meant for me in that season. It was disorienting, I felt alone, and it weighed on me.

    My thoughts were consumed with the questions, "How did I get here? How did I come to inhabit such a state?...How did I burn out?" 

    Parker Palmer in his book Let Your Life Speakoffers a clue to my quandary:

    "One sign that I am violating my own nature in the name of nobility is a condition called burnout. Though usually regarded as the result of trying to give too much, burnout in my experience results of trying to give what I do not possess - the ultimate in giving too little. Burnout is a state of emptiness, to be sure, but it does not result from giving all I have; it merely reveals the nothingness from which I was trying to give in the first place." - Parker Palmer

    Listen to a sermon on burnout

    For me, and for Parker Palmer, burnout was a result of offering something I did not possess. 

    Parker Palmer says what's behind this cycle that leads to burnout is what he calls, "the myth of the limitless self." We grow up hearing we can be whatever we want to be, and we can do anything we set our minds to. Pretty soon those "can" statements may turn into "should" statements, and all of the sudden there is a mountain of expectations weighing down on our shoulders.  We attempt to fulfill the demands of the myth of the limitless self, and the consequence is "offering what we do not possess"; the eventual result is burnout. 

    Reflecting on my own time of burnout, and the insight Parker Palmer shares, burnout happens like this: 

    • We can easily make meeting expectations an idol 
    • When we do, we falsely believe that we gain our identity through meeting expectations  

    However, our true identity is not found in meeting others' expectations, or even meeting the expectations we believe God has for us.  Our identity comes from God.  Simply from being created in Gods image and being in God's family.

    How do we combat the myth of the limitless self?
    How do we avoid burnout? 

    In a phrase: create space for God.

    The truth is, God doesn't ask us to achieve an identity through obedience or meeting expectations. He gives us an identity, a relationship of trust, that bears  fruit. We cultivate this relationship by creating space to encounter God. 

    Throughout scripture we see examples of how people create space to be transformed by God, and resist the temptation of the myth of the limitless self. 

    Here are 3 examples of how we can create space for God: stopping, solitude, and silence.

    Stopping // Sabbath 

    Stopping was built into what it means to be human from the very beginning. In Genesis, God rests on the 7th day from all his work. When God is leading his people in the Old Testament He instructs them on the importance of stopping.

    The Hebrew word for Sabbath literally means "stop." When we choose to create a time in our week to stop, we are actively resisting the myth of the limitless self. God gave us a gift when he showed us the practice of Sabbath. In a way God was, and still is, saying to us, "your life is not about what you achieve; it's not about what you do it's about who you are". Sabbath, or stopping, is about creating space to just 'be' with God and with others. 

    Something to try: 

    Find a day or half-day in your week that you can designate for a non-work, non-obligation time. Consistency is helpful but not necessary. This isn't a time to do nothing, rather its a time to do the things that make you come alive. It's a day free of expectation. A day to delight in all that God has made and given to us. A day to delight in Him. 

    Tip: Turn off your phone (or at least turn it on 'do not disturb'). Actively shut out the connections to the world of expectations that will be waiting for you the next day. 

    Resource suggestion: Sabbath as Resistance: Saying no to the culture of now by Walter Brueggemann 

    Solitude 

    One of the first things the Spirit leads Jesus to do in his ministry is go into solitude. He does this for 40 days (a way of symbolizing the Israelites 40-year journey through the wilderness). There is a testing and refinement that happens for Jesus in His solitude. Henri Nouwen captures what this solitudes meant for Jesus and what it can mean for us:

    "Solitude is the furnace of transformation. Without solitude we remain victims of our society and continue to be entangled in the illusions of the false self... In solitude I get rid of my scaffolding: no friends to talk with, no telephone calls to make... the task is to preserver in my solitude, to stay in my cell until all my seductive visitors get tired of pounding on my door and leave me alone." - Henri Nouwen

    The reality of our lives is hard to escape in solitude. Solitude is the environment where we sit with what is most true in our lives; the good, the bad and the ugly. But we don't sit alone. In solitude, we let God into our deepest selves, and listen. When we practice solitude, we are refined. We create space for God to speak truth into our lives.  

    Something to try: Go for a walk around your block this week. Pray to God before you start: "God I'm giving this time to you, give me ears to hear what you're saying to me." 

    Resource suggestion: The Urban Retreat in Shoreview, directed by Christine Osgood,  is an invaluable resource here in the Minneapolis area. The Urban Retreat has both a group experience and a space you can reserve for a morning or afternoon of guided solitude. 

    Silence 

    Silence and solitude are close partners in creating space to be with God. Though solitude does not always include silence, and you don't have to be in solitude to practice silence, they often come as a pair. Jesus clearly had a practice of both (eg: Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16). He does so because the Father clearly desires the peace of silence to be a context for communication. A classic example of this desire of God is His interaction with Elijah in 1 King 19:10-18 where God spoke to Elijah not in fire, earthquake, or wind (the noise of our life,) but in a gentle whisper. This is the God who says, "Be still and know I am God (Psalm 46:10)." Silence is a practice of stillness, a posture of listening for God our Father's gentle voice.  

    The first thing you notice about silence is that it is not natural. We do not know how chaotic our minds and hearts are until we try to quiet them. Silence is a muscle you must grow over time.  Mill City has begun to practice this by doing the Daily Office together, a few people have shared what helps them in silence:

    • Focus on your breathing. Some people focus on breath to symbolize breathing in God's grace and breathing out distraction. 
    • Journal. Write what comes to mind. 
    • Repeat a phrase like, "Lord your love is strong", "God have mercy"or "God you are good." 

    Something to try: This week at work take 5 minutes of your lunch break and go somewhere quiet (empty office, break room, outside somewhere). Take two minutes and try to be silent before God. Start with a prayer, "God I'm here to be in your presence. Speak to me what you want to, I am listening." 

    Resource suggestion: Mill City Training Podcast - The Spiritual Weight of Expectations with special guest John Nielsen. Last week I had the privilege of sitting down with John to talk about this topic and he shared some really wonderful and practical tools for practicing silence. I encourage you to check it out. 

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    The point of all this is not to create more expectations that we feel we have to meet in order to please God. These practices are gifts, gifts God has given His family to connect with Him. May you experience the joy that was intended to be experienced in these practices as you create space for God in your life. 

    Listen to our current series, Searching for God, to learn more about creating space for God.